Monday, December 15, 2014

Astrology Predictions for 2015: Counting Green Sheep in Your Dreams of Love

Quote: “In order to effectively battle crisis, you must get in touch with your inner-selves and work together toward the goal of survival.” ~Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos/author

By Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos, TV Producer/Host and Author/Lecturer of the International bestselling book, Surviving Cancerland: Intuitive Aspects of Healing which promotes patient advocacy and connecting with Inner-guidance for success in health, wealth and relationships.

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Have you hear the saying, "Out of chaos comes order?" The year 2015 is going to be the year of endless possibilities, in numerology, Western Astrology, Chinese Birth Charts and Feng Shui. Out of the chaos of 2014's Wooden Horse we see the new beginning shift into order. With the knowledge contained  in this blog you can arm yourself with the necessary information to make great choices in health, wealth and love in the up coming new year. Your dreams may be more important for guidance  than ever before. 

Do you ever pray for help?  The answers may come in your dreams. Those dreams can be daydreams; moments when your mind wanders to a beach beyond time and space and wades in the waters of Universal Wisdom from the Ocean of Gnosis, the esoteric knowledge of spiritual truth. There, we receive answers from our Higher Power.

As a three-time breast cancer survivor whose dreams diagnosed illness missed by the medical community and the tests on which they relied, I understand the importance of dreams, female intuition and Inner-guidance, which diagnosed my stage-four breast cancer recurrence. That is as lucky as winning the lottery three times in a row. Luck had little to do with it. Divine intervention did. I learned that the power of science goes so far, and then comes our Higher Power. 

 We were all born with Guardian-angels and Spirit-guides. We are their job and they take that job seriously.  Dreams are doorways to Inner-guidance where your ET (Eternal Teacher) phones home for help during difficult times. Miraculously, someone always answers the call. How will the astrological and numerical changes in 2015 effect your dreams for Inner-guidance?

 A New Year resolution usually involves giving up something to improve your life. For 2015 choose to be different and add Inner-guidance. Start with a dream journal or recording device beside your bed. Then begin a dialogue with your inner self as you learn your dream language. 

 Out with the old Chinese 2014 Horse and in with the new 2015 symbol; Green Wooden Sheep. The first day of Green Wooden Sheep is February 4, 2015. Chinese New Year Day is on February 19, China Standard Time. The Year 2015 is the 4712th Chinese Year.

Are you a Rat, Pig or Cow? Do you know your Chinese Zodiac Sign? Your birthrate is below it.

              Chinese Astrology uses one's birthday and birth time to predict their fortune. 

             The astrological birth chart is built by the Chinese Astrology Calendar, which is a 

combination counting system of Yin-Yang Five Elements and 12 animals. The Five Elements are 

Metal, Water, Wood, Fire and Earth. The twelve animal are Rat, Cow, Tiger, Dragon, Snake, Horse, 

Sheep, Monkey, Chicken, Dog and Pig.

            The 2015 Feng Shui yearly predictions for the sheep foretell that this is your year.

 So make the most of it. Do not let your stupid actions or ego come in the way of success. The sheep

 can be timid, as the name implies, but rest assured, anything you get involved in, you are passionate

 about. The year 2015 opens new, creative avenues for you. Your career takes an unexpected but 

welcomed turn. Be thrifty, as your bank account will see highs and lows in the coming year.

2015 will be an Inner-guidance turning point for many people, especially those born in the sheep year of 8.  If you were lucky in the past two years, then you will maintain your achievements. If you were unlucky the last two years, 2015 brings the opportunity to create your future. This is because Sheep contains the Female Earth, which grows plants, and helps to create something from nothing.  2015 is all about teamwork. Sheep were born 1931-02-17—1932-02-05.(see chart above)

Numerology:  2015 is an 8-Year. 8 will manifest the physical world. 8 is the infinity sign standing at attention, which makes for limitless possibilities concerning answers to dreams, prayers and meditations. The number 8 in the Bible represents a new beginning, meaning a new order or creation, and man's true 'born again' event when he is resurrected from the dead into eternal life. 2015 will be a year of new beginnings with order replacing chaos. Out of the chaos of 2014 comes order. 

In the Chinese culture the lucky number 8 has strong intuition and insight, so 2015 will have the potential to explore things undiscovered. Because Eight has the similar pronunciation with wealth or fortune, 8 is very welcome among Chinese people. The popularity of 8 was observed in relation to the Beijing Olympic Games which began exactly at eight o’clock, eight minutes on the eighth day of the eighth month in 2008. When people in China choose telephone numbers, mobile numbers, house numbers, car identification numbers and important dates, 8 is usually the first choice.

 8's in love! What kind of a love-life pattern will an 8 year possess and how may it affect us? An 8 year sees far more life-long love pledges. Lovers are very considerate and enthusiastic. They are even willing to sacrifice their own interests to keep the relationship everlasting. Generally speaking, the love they are seeking for is the combination of friendship, business partnership and also lifelong romance. 

            What does the 2015 Inner Guidance Horoscope hold for you and your loved ones?
During challenging times that may question your resolve, your Power Word may hold the key to answers. Stand in your power in 2015.

              What dreams of health, wealth and love do you share? Are you madly in love with someone or is there someone you can't stand, but don't know why? Were you sexually attracted to someone only to find that the sparks didn't fly in the bedroom? Their Astrological signs may hold the answer. These astrological predictions for 2015 include sexual signs. The first combination is "Hot" and the second "Not" and why. 

Aries- (3/21-4/19) Your Power Word: Creativity
Negative: Health; Positive: Destiny
Beware: Negativity
Lucky Numbers: 5; Season: Spring; Element: Fire;
Embrace: Color: Blue; Foods: Cauliflower; Direction: South
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Clubs; Tarot Card: Wands
Changes are in store for Aries. Everything is going as planned, but others may interfere. Sunny days are ahead for your finances. Your career takes a downward turn but diligence saves it. Your love life gets better than you ever imagined.
Sexual Signs: HOT-Aries and Cancer make fireworks. A powerful attraction and good match. 
NOT-Aries and Virgo sexual personalities are so dissimilar that a good deal of tolerance is required on both sides but the lust seldom lasts.

Taurus- (4/20-5/20) Your Power Word: Wealth
 Negative:  Expenses
Positive: Family
Lucky Numbers: 6; Season: Fall; Element; Earth
Beware: Workers
Embrace: Color: Red; Direction: North; Food: Rice
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Diamonds; Tarot Card; Pentacles:
Taurus finds a friend in technology. Maintain stability with family. Allow solitude in your life.  Time alone helps you recharge. 2015 looks stable in wealth. Love interests flourish.
Sexual Signs: HOT-Taurus and Scorpio have an intense sexual appetite in common so neither feels the need for outside affairs. NOT-Taurus and Sagittarius won't work because Taurus will try to tie a string to the independent Sag.    

Gemini- (5/21-6/20) Your Power Word: Challenge
Negative: Over excitement; Positive:  Decisions
Lucky Numbers: 11; Season: Winter; Element: Air
Beware: tricksters
Embrace: Color: Yellow; Direction: East; Food: Sour
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Spades; Tarot Card: Swords
Gemini, your finances improve. Opportunity falls into your lap. Stay focused. Do not let others distract you from new ventures. Your love life presents challenges concerning an established friendship. Let go of grudges.
Sexual Signs:HOT- Gemini and Leo are an ideal match. Big-hearted and generous to a fault Leo is putty in the hands of sexually clever Gemini--and loves it.  NOT-Gemini with Scorpio is a match made in Hell. Scorpio is jealous and likes to sting. Gemini is fickle and will become hostile and pout. 

Cancer- (6/21-7/22)  Your Power Word: Love
Positive: Think; Negative: excitement
Lucky Numbers: 12; Season: Summer; Element: Water
Beware: business
Embrace: Color: Blue; Direction: West; Food: Cold products
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Harts; Tarot Card: Cups
Cancer, confidence strengthens as you tackle issues and attract a new love interest. Stop taking life so seriously, your health for granted and rediscover dreams. You are capable of more than you know. 
Sexual Signs: HOT- Cancer with Scorpio is a match made in Heaven. Cancer is an emotionally needy love sign and Scorpio needs to dominate. Amen. They are 50 shades of astrology. NOT-Cancer and Sagittarius are opposite signs with opposite goals and totally different desires. Sag will feel smothered and bored and Cancer will become hurt and clingy. 

Leo- (7/23/8/22) Your Power Word: Action
Positive: Logic; Negative: Arrogance
Lucky Numbers: 9; Season: Spring; Element: Fire
Beware:  Older man
Embrace: Color: Green; Direction: South; Food: Bitter
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Clubs; Tarot Card: Wands
Leo, your hard work pays off.  Finances and health improves when your career gets a boost. Your fire element makes you passionate about projects.  Beware of those who take advantage of your kindness.  Your Inner-guidance helps a family member in crisis.
Sexual Signs: HOT- Leo and Sagittarius soon become Mr. and Mrs. Happily-Ever-After because both signs have a keen sense of adventure, independence, and a sexual appetite fit for the King-of-the-Beasts and the Huntress. NOT-Leo with Capricorn is throwing water on fire. There are fundamental sexual differences between them. Capricorn's practical approach to sex puts a halter on the Beast.    

Virgo-(8/23-9/22)  Your Power Word: Health
Negative: Hesitation; Positive: Confidence
Lucky Number: 10; Season: Fall; Element: Earth
Beware: Over excited
Embrace: Color: Red; Direction: East; Food: Green
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Diamonds; Tarot Card: Pentacles
Virgo, your calm demeanor will be tested in 2015. You possess the innate ability to collect facts using Inner-guidance.  Brush up on your anger management skills because you’ll need them.  As finances improve Cupid favors you.
Sexual Signs: HOT-Virgo and Virgo can work if boredom does not set in. They both share the same puritanical sexual reserve that prefers love and marriage over sex and passion. NOT-Virgo and Sagittarius  may make "IT" for the weekend together, but not for life. Sag's happy-go-lucky approach to sex and love can drive insecure prudish Virgo crazy.  

Libra- (9/23-10/22) Your Power Word: Thought
Positive: Health; Negative: Decisions
Lucky Numbers: 3; Season: Winter; Element: Air
Beware: Close friend
Embrace: Color: Red; Direction: North; Food: Bitter
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Spades; Tarot Card: Swords
Libra, 2015 presents both reward and challenge due to your indecisive nature. Stand in your power and speak your truth. Relax concerning finances. Find your inner-artist and set yourself free. Your dislike of confrontation causes problems in love.
Sexual Signs: HOT-Libra and Aquarius get along famously.They enjoy socializing. A sexy affair often turns into a stimulating marriage. NOT-Libra with Pisces is a complicated combination. 
Pisces is not a dominant sexual sign and Libra is unwilling to supply the firm leadership required for fireworks in the bedroom. 

Scorpio- (10/23-11/21) Your Power Word: Emotion
Negative: Anger; Positive: Win
Lucky Numbers: 4; Season: Summer; Element: Water
Beware: Driving
Embrace: Color: Blue; Direction: West; Food: spicy
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Hearts; Tarot Card: Cups
Scorpio, you gain respect when your Inner-guidance handles a life crisis with integrity. An opportunity you’ve been carefully planning will present itself in a way you never expected.  Be alert to love clues in dreams.
Sexual Signs: HOT-Scorpio and Scorpio are so hot together they could start a fire going while swimming underwater. The trick is to keep the fire from burning too hot or burning itself out. 
NOT-Scorpio abhors Aquarius's constant changing moods.  Let them remain friends and go their separate ways.

Sagittarius- (11/22-12/21)  Your Power Word: Passion
 Negative: Impatience; Positive: Sustainability
Lucky Numbers: 1; Season: Spring; Element: Fire
Beware: Family
Embrace: Color: White; Direction: South; Food: Green products
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Hearts; Tarot Card: Cups
Sagittarius, your enthusiasm is infectious. The last few years have tested you. You proved yourself during times that seemed unfair. Pluto, the planet of transformation, has been remodeling your life and guiding you. By summer finances improve, as do chances for love.
Sexual Signs: HOT- Sagittarius and Libra will survive short and long term. Libra's watchful tolerance is just what  devil-may-care Sag needs. Libra will bring out the best in Sag as a sexual partner. NOT-Sag and Virgo? B-O-R-I-N-G. Forget it! 

Capricorn- (12/22-1/19)  Your Power Word: Physical
Negative: Pride; Positive: Perseverance
Lucky Number: 6; Season: Fall; Element: Earth
Beware:  Addictions
Embrace: Color: Red; Direction: North; Food; Leafy
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Diamonds; Tarot Card: Pentacles
Capricorn, you will continue to amaze yourself and gain respect from colleagues. Your close relationship with family cause health issues from worry. In love, Inner-guidance urges you take chances. The outcome is a positive surprise.
Sexual Signs: HOT- Capricorn and Scorpio are quite sexually compatible. Scorpio is more imaginative and Capricorn more methodical but together they work like a well oiled machine in bed. NOT- Capricorn and Sagittarius- no way. Methodical  Capricorn likes to have sex in a comfortable safe place and Sag will "do-it"  on  golf course under the sprinklers. Not happening.    

Aquarius: (1/20-2/18)  Your Power Word: Observation
Negative: Pride; Positive: Perseverance
Lucky Number: 6; Season: Winter; Element: Air
Beware:  Love.
Embrace: Color: Yellow; Direction: East; Food: red items
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Spades; Tarot Card: Swords
Aquarius, things will rarely be dull in 2015.  Manage life’s roller-coaster ride. Your soul needs to be fed, your body needs to relax and your mind needs to unwind. Seek Inner- guidance in dreams. Make emotional connections for love to survive.
Sexual Signs: HOT- Aquarius and Sagittarius are both unpredictable, lively, and active lovers which makes for fireworks in the bedroom. NOT-Aquarius and Capricorn would be undemonstrative lovers that would quickly wash out if they ever even got started. Someone has got to make the first move.  

Pisces- (2/19-3/20) Your Power Word: Empathy
Negative: Emotions; Positive: Confidence
Lucky Number: 4; Season: Summer; Element: Water
Beware:  contracts
Embrace: Color: Brown; Direction: South; Food: greens
Inner Guidance- Playing Card: Hearts; Tarot Card: Cups
Pisces, 2015 will be about growth. Adaptation will be a running theme. Your instincts are highly developed so trust Inner-guidance. Change is in the air with respect to love and career. You’ve earned a long-awaited get-a-way. Enjoy it!
Sexual Signs: HOT-Pisces and Aries make sparks fly. Dynamic Aries unlocks Pisces full potential in the sexual arena. Aries dominates, but that is what Pisces loves. 50 Shades of Fish. NOT-Pisces and Gemini are too unstable signs that make a chaotic unpromising combination. They need stronger more dominant sexual partners

Now that you are aware of 2015’s endless possibilities, in numerology, Western Astrology and Sexual Signs, Chinese Birth Charts and Feng Shui  you are armed with the information necessary to make great choices in health, wealth and love in the year 2015. Please join me again for more information on how to Access your Inner–guides for a life filled with peace of mind. In future blogs discover your dream language, identify the seven types of dreams, and experience six ways to remember them. Find priceless pearls of wisdom in dreams created by the sands of time.  Perhaps those pearls are the answers to your prayers for 2015.

Monday, December 1, 2014

4 Techniques to Avoid Winter Make-up Sins.

Holidays and parties go together like New and Year. You have been working on your weight and health to get into that beautiful dress for a special celebration. Great!

But is your skin a sin to behold?

Although Halloween is over, would your winter make-up still frighten small children? 

As one of the C3TV hosts for Wicked Housewives On Cape Cod, making sure my make-up is not a sin is very important because the HD cameras magnify every cosmetic mistake or flaky flaw tenfold.

Your skin is a breathing organ. It the largest organ you possess and one with which you cannot live.

Therefore, you must care for your skin  and keep it as healthy and beautiful just as you would your hair, teeth and physique.  It is one of the few organs not moisturized from the inside out. Cold weather from outdoors and heated air indoors from homes and workplaces take a toll on skin, especially your face which faces the daily elements.

First impressions are lasting ones. Make them beautiful. 

Moisturize twice daily, morning and night, to reduce beauty sins and create glowing results. End your nightly routine and begin your daily one with clean skin that radiates health  from under your makeup.

Here are four “skin sins” to avoid and steps to help you make a warm and lasting impression on anyone you meet during the cold winter months.

1.) Dry Skin Sin- apply moisturizer and then primer under make-up foundation. It avoids the “wrinkled map look” that can leave people staring at your face looking for the X that marks the spot.  That spot needs extra moisturizer. 

If a dog is man's best friend, primer can be a girl's best friend. 

          Primer can:
                     a.) hold your makeup in place so it does not “travel” to wrinkles that will begin to look
                          like the Grand Canyons

                     b.) trap  moisture on your face and keep it from evaporating from beneath your make-up
                          foundation for that all-day healthy glow.
                     c.) be tinted and worn alone without make-up for the same glowing results 

2.) Dry Lip Sin- apply rich lip moisturizer at night right BEFORE bed, so it has 8 hours to work. This will help you avoid the “prune lips” look with lipstick. Dry cracked lips look worse with lipstick.   Keep your lip balm beside your bed. Reapply it in the morning and remove any extra before applying lipstick.

3.) Chapped Hands Sin- apply a rich moisturizer at night BEFORE bed so it works while you sleep. Your hands and face are the first places people look when they meet you. Reapply in the morning AFTER your shower and makeup. This will keep it on your hands longer. Apply a small amount of cream to hands throughout the day  after you wash them.  Keep your hand moisturizer beside your bed with your lip balm. If your hands are very chapped, wear a pair of light weight household cleaning gloves while you sleep over the moisturizer. I will keep the moisturizer on your hands and off your sheets.

4.) Powder on Dry Skin Sin- Powder makeup on dry skin makes lines look like dry river beds. It draws attention to flaky areas and is drying. Powder on dry skin accentuates sin number one and two. Rather than using bronzing powder, use a bronzing cake-makeup or liquid.

 Remember, the name of the game during the cold and drying winter months is Moisturize.

 Take care of your skin and it will take care of you.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos believes dreams can diagnose and guide your life. Did you have a déjà vu or did your dream come true? Kat survived  three cancers diagnosed by her dreams. Bestselling Author,  Inspirational Keynote Speaker, TV & Radio Host of Wicked Housewives On Cape Cod, columnist, and R.A.Bloch Cancer Foundation Hotline Counselor; she has been featured on radio, in magazines and newspapers, appeared on Every Way Women TV, and the Waking Universe TV documentary. SURVIVING CANCERLAND: Intuitive Aspects of Healing is the first in her three book series on waking up to dreams that diagnose life. Kat taught Special Education and Psychology at (USF). 

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

8 Basic Steps of Dream Re-entry


nightmares agin You have just had a really bad dream. Why would you ever want to re-enter that nightmare? Don’t we prefer to forget what is not peasant? One of the important reasons to re-enter a dream is to allow the relationships in your dream to grow and develop in a positive manner.  Our nightmares can be a blessing in disguise and a call to action.  

This was addressed previously in  my blog 4 Benefits to Re-enering Your Dream.

Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos and Tallulah Lyons are in constant contact with their spirit guides in dreams and use information from their dream journals to findanswers to questions by re-entering dreams.  They combined their personal

experiences and shared it on the International Association for the Study of Dreams (IASD) online Symposium. The goal of this symposium is to share cutting-edge research and information on dreams, spirit guides and  Dreaming-with-Others for research. This information is then shared with medical practitioners, students, mystics, metaphysicians,  and the world community of dreamers.

Here are steps practiced by Katheen and Tallulah on how to re-enter your dream for clarification, contact and retrieval of forgotten information.

  1. Follow the breath into a deeply relaxed state;
  2. enter an imaginal healing sanctuary;
  3. invite Supportive Presence/Inner Guide;
  4. re-enter the dream from a new perspective staying grounded in a sense of support and guidance;
  5. allow the elements of the dream to move and shift;
  6. allow new insights, perspectives and interactions;
  7. imagine the transformed imagery as healing energy;
  8. imagine sending the healing energy into any part of the body, mind, or spirit that needs special tending.

Tallulah has developed several guided imagery scripts that can be found in Dreams and Guided Imagery. The scripts are for deep relaxation, nightmare transformation, inviting a healing waking dream, and for integrating healing symbols. The recordings also can be downloaded from the website:

Last year, Laura Huff Hileman used one of Tallulah’s guided imagery scripts in a study to evaluate the effect on the transformation of nightmares. In unprompted reports of dreamers who used the guided imagery with their disturbing dreams, 61% – 92% reported movement from anxiety to a sense of safety, transformation of imagery from troubling to helpful, insights for waking life, and an increase in confidence and empowerment.

Kathleen has developed a free introductory meditation tape available for download on her webste to help clients use breathing techniques to enter and re-enter the dream-state for their dreamwork.

Dream journaling is an excellent source for researching personal dream delema and information. By dream-tracking, keeping track of dreams that my be recurrent or important, you can highlight questions or dream events and re-enter dreams to research the answers.

Not all dreams are filled with life altering information that must be remembered. However, when you are in crisis or plan to make the “mistake of a lifetime,” our ET (Eternal Teacher) phones home for help.
guide again Dreams are phone lines to the “other side.”

Spirit guides send information through dreams that not only diagnose illness but  can diagnose and guide you toward creative relationship with all aspect of your  life.
Re-entering your dreams is an excellent way to dialogue with self and your spirit guides.

InternationalBio: Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos believes dreams can diagnose your life. Did you  have a déjà vu or did your dream come true? Kat survived three cancers  diagnosed by her dreams. Author, inspirational speaker, Cape Women Online  Magazine & Wellness Women 40 and Beyond  columnist, and R.A.Bloch Cancer  Foundation Hotline Counselor & Mentor; Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos hosts a  weekly web-radio show Your Life & Purpose Revealed, has been featured on  radio, in magazines and newspapers, appeared on Every Way Women TV, and the  Waking Universe TV documentary. SURVIVING CANCERLAND: Intuitive Aspects  of Healing is the first in her three book series on waking up to dreams that  diagnose life.

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Embrace the Gift of Holiday Love During Crisis: 6 “Tried & True” Ways

Trouble does not take time off for celebrations or holidays and neither should you. Every day of life is a special gift. Celebrating the holidays is a wonderful way to distract us from our treatments, illness and crisis.  When we embrace and celebrate a gift of love, we automatically give back as much as we received. Accepting love is also a gift to the giver.

“But how can I celebrate when I feel so poorly?” you may ask. I asked the same question while I battled three breast cancers over ten years. So the solutions shared here with you are tried and true. 

1.       Embrace the gift of love during the holidays as a first step in enjoying life during times of strife. Disaster is temporary. Love is eternal. Focus on the  love and joy will happen. It is part of the miracle of life.

2.       Take time to love the simple things in life. Celebration is not measured by how many things you do, how much money you spend, or how lavishly you entertain. It is measured by how much you share the gift of love and how deeply that gift is felt.  Celebration comes from accomplishments. Celebration does not come from your mental “to do list.” It comes from your heart’s, “I did it list.”

3.       Start your “I did it list” by writing down your victories in life, no matter how small. Size is a concept and state of mind. Diamonds come in very small packages yet they are a very big commodity.  What diamonds do you have to share with yourself that exemplify your life’s accomplishments?  Honor them by keeping them with you.  When you feel the weight of treatment, illness or life-in- general bearing down upon you, take out your list and re-read it. If you are having an exceptionally bad day, read it to your reflection in a mirror until you believe it. Mirror therapy can be very effective.

4.       Define your limits and know your limitations while in crisis, treatment or recovery.  When faced with an emotional or physical decision that is taxing or vexing, ask yourself, “Will life continue to exist if I do not do this?” If the answer is, Yes!” choose to not do it.  Remember that the choice is always yours to accept or reject any request or demand.  The word “No” does not require an explanation.  Just like the word “Because”  “No” is its own complete statement. If you feel compelled to soften the blow add, “But thank you so much for asking.”  Embracing this concept is a big step in defining your limits and limitations during the holidays that can become  a New Year Resolution.    

5.        Sit back and let others show their devotion to you during this challenging time in your life. Receiving affection, compliments or gifts is not always easy for many people.  You become so accustomed to giving that you overlook the importance of getting. Look at receiving from a different perspective.  Allowing others the opportunity to display their love to you may be the best gift you ever gave to them. It can become the memory of a lifetime. Give them the gift of pampering you.

6.       The holidays are filled with miracles. Some are as small as a newborn baby. Some as big as a second chance at life. Watch for miracles during holiday family gatherings, and remember to give thanks for the small things in life.  

During a personal crisis it can be difficult to relinquish control of things that were considered “your job.” Allowing yourself to be vulnerable and shift power into the hands of others can be daunting. Trusting in your Higher Power to lead family members can be a big leap of faith, and that may be a good thing.

Agree to let others help you with cores or cherished jobs like trimming the tree or cooking the holiday meal. It may be a way of seeing how much you have influenced their life in a positive way and a wonderful opportunity to tweak family traditions so that you have more energy to enjoy the festivities.  Think of this change as a temporary respite from past frenzies, no matter how enjoyable they may have seemed at the time.

This holiday season choose to embrace the opportunity to sit back, relax and share the gift of love by allowing loved ones, family and friends to pamper you like you’ve never been pampered before.

You deserve it.  They deserve it.  Eat it up!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Kathleen O’Keefe Kanavos is the International Bestselling author of SurvivingCancerland: Intuitive Aspects of Healing, & 3x Breast Cancer Survivor whose dreams diagnosed cancer. Kat believes dreams diagnose your life. “Did you have a déjà- vu or did your dream come true?” Kat’s interpretations are in American Express Open Forum. She’s a TV & Radio Host for Wicked Housewives On Cape Cod, Coach, Keynote Speaker, “go-to authority” on Beauty, Health, Wealth & Relationships, Panelist/Presenter at IASD (International Association for the Study of Dreams), columnist, & blogs on sites like DreamCloud, Breast Cancer Yoga. Kat taught Special Education and Psychology at USF.